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Care Johnson left a comment for J Greene

"I, too, am so sorry for your loss. The many years that most of us have been with our partners/spouses is not acknowledged as it should be, but in time, I hope people will come around. I am also in a grieving space as it just turned 7 years since my…"

Mar 29

Care Johnson commented on Denise Lefas's group lesbian partner loss

"Hi, Kirsten, I'd say "welcome" but in reality none of us ever wanted to be in this position. I've read the thread going on here of feeling so lost...that the "me" is not the real me...that there is the horrible feeling…"

Feb 6

Jacki Woods left a comment for Care Johnson

"Thank you for asking, Care. It will be two years this weekend and I am doing better bust still have crying jags. Songs, movies, almost anything sad will set me off. As you said, we never do get over the loss. I would now like to…"

Feb 4

Care Johnson commented on Denise Lefas's group lesbian partner loss

"Janet, I guess I feel more stunned and numb with the loss of Jen. She had so much to look forward to, yet was taken so young. The loss of my BJ was more horrendous than my mother (and we were best friends, too), and I thought I'd lose myself…"

Feb 4

Janet Angelone left a comment for Care Johnson

"Thank you for the kind words. I can't imagine ever having another partner. This grief is beyond anything I have ever experienced before. Not even when my dad passed. I was his 'little girl.' Judy and I loved to travel and yes I hope…"

Feb 4

Care Johnson posted a status

"Not a day goes by that I don't rejoice in the memories I have of my beloved wife!"

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Care Johnson left a comment for Janet Angelone

"Janet, I'm so sorry to hear about your partner!!! I lost my BJ after 35 years and am still coping as I approach the 7th anniversary of her death. Keeping busy is the best thing, but that is more difficult now that we're a bit older (I am…"

Feb 3

Care Johnson commented on Denise Lefas's group lesbian partner loss

"Since my BJ died, I have also lost my beloved granddaughter, Jen, age 23, to sepsis after surgery. My question is this: does the grief feel different after the loss of your spouse when someone else you love dies? "

Feb 3

Care Johnson left a comment for Jacki Woods

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Feb 3

Care Johnson joined Denise Lefas's group

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Care Johnson left a comment for Jacki Woods

"Hi, Jacki, I'm so sorry to hear about your partner. It does not matter how long you've been with someone if you love them and now they're gone, it hurts like heck! I'm coming up on my 6th year anniversary of my beloved's…"

Mar 2, 2015

Care Johnson and Jacki Woods are now friends

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Sep 24, 2014

Care Johnson posted a status

"Just wanted to send out warm {{{{{ H U G S }}}}} to everyone on this site. Know that someone is thinking about you and does care...Be well!"

Sep 24, 2014

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Mary left a comment for Care Johnson

"I am the Mary that just lost my love. It was so sudden i can't believe she's gone. I have never been alone. We worked together all our life. People probably thought the amount of time we spent together was crazy but we were so in…"

Sep 24, 2014

Care Johnson replied to David's discussion 40 years together in the group Gay and lesbians who have lost partners

"As you know, starting over is so very difficult--but doable. I lost my beloved BJ of 35 years just over 5 years ago. I still cannot believe I'm STILL here without her. I still miss her each and every day, and look forward to the day we'll…"

Sep 24, 2014

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At 2:29pm on February 4, 2016, Jacki Woods said…: Thank you for asking, Care. It will be two years this weekend and I am doing better bust still have crying jags. Songs, movies, almost anything sad will set me off. As you said, we never do get over the loss. I would now like to meet someone and hope that can happen. How are you doing now?

At 8:01am on February 4, 2016, Janet Angelone said…: Thank you for the kind words. I can't imagine ever having another partner. This grief is beyond anything I have ever experienced before. Not even when my dad passed. I was his 'little girl.' Judy and I loved to travel and yes I hope to go and do as we always did. Some how I don't see it being as enjoyable as it otherwise would have been. Somehow, you making it without your partner after so long together, lets me know there is hope. Thanks again.

At 5:52pm on September 24, 2014, Mary said…: I am the Mary that just lost my love. It was so sudden i can't believe she's gone. I have never been alone. We worked together all our life. People probably thought the amount of time we spent together was crazy but we were so in love we didn't want to be apart. Something just clicked between us. She would do anything for me no questions asked and likewise so would I. I can't explain our love it was so special.

Mary

At 11:50pm on September 24, 2013, geri hen said…: Hi Care, just wanted to thank you for your comments about Sharon. I loss Sharon 7 wks. ago and it feels like a lifetime. No motivation or interest, and no purpose. You stated you lost BJ 4 yrs. ago. What kinds of things did you do to help you along. Not that you ever fully recover but was there anything that helped with the process of healing. Anything that gave you the motivation to start living your life instead of just existing. Right now I feel paralyzed and that I am just existing. Any suggestions. Thank you again, Geri

At 10:45am on August 17, 2013, Carl Schatz said…: Thank you again Care

You are a wonderful person. I would be more than happy to be your friend. I'll keep working through this. I know that having people like you will make easier.

Hugs Carl

At 2:51pm on August 16, 2013, Carl Schatz said…: Thank you for the encouraging words Care.

I'll keep trying to remember the great times we had together traveling the world. Not easy to do, but I'll have to work on it. It's been two days of stomach wrenching pain. The sooner I straighten up, the better. Carl

At 3:13pm on April 27, 2012, Darrell Sours said…: Hi Care,

I wanted to thank you for replying to my post. I wouldn't end my life because Homer is gone but I don't have much of an interest in life right now. I go through the motions of day to day living and that's about it.

I am so sorry about your partner passing. You were together even longer than Homer and myself. Our families never really accepted us either except for Homer's mother. She seemed to really like me. I don't think the rest of our familes realized how much Homer and me were devoted to each other until he passed. I will say my family has been good to me since he passed and so has one of his sisters.It's a shame it took his passing for them to realize how much Homer and I loved one another and what a good person he was.I don't think that any couples straight or gay stay togethe as long as he and I did or as long as you and your partner did without loving each other.

Everyone tells me that I should be thankful for the years we had together and that most people gay or straight never find the love that Homer and I had. I am thankful for the time we we had together but that doesn't mean that I don't miss him like crazy right now.

I am here for you Care whenever you want to reach out.