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Harold McKinstry
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  • Saginaw, MI
  • United States
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ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Gigi Sorry for the lost of your husband, I lost my wife January 29. We had been married 11 years, very happy and good for each other. I know what you mean I feel like I'm slogging through my days with no purpose or destination in mind. I too…"
20 hours ago
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha Thanks for the response, I always pickup something useful or that makes me think about something. Sorry about your immediate family problem. I think a lot of people don't know what to say or afraid to say the wrong thing or were…"
Thursday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha Thanks for the response, I did read those links you put up they were helpful. You never really think about death until it slaps you in the face, then it takes your reason for living and what makes you happy. Death is such a strange concept…"
Thursday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Deb I'm looking forward to when the fog starts to lift, and I can see a glimpse of the road ahead. Feel pretty clueless now."
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Pete I am seeing a psychologist have an appointment this Thursday. My doctor gave me a prescription for Xanax but wants me to just take it when I need it. When I get in these moods sometimes they come fast and I completely forget about taking…"
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry replied to Marcie Sutherland's discussion Lost in the group Bereaved Spouses
"Marcie I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my wife January 29 after 11 years of Marriage. Your right you can't understand the grief and pain unless you have gone through it. I'm sure your family doesn't think your bothering them,…"
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry left a comment for kim iovino
"Kim I'm sorry for your loss. My wife died January 29, still dealing with this mind numbing grief. I joined the group Bereaved Spouses, I have found it helpful, the people in that group are wonderful. Everyone is very supportive kind and caring.…"
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Everyone Been having a bad couple of days, just so tired of the grief, despair, loneliness and lost feeling day after day. I don't sleep well, mind won't shut down no matter how tired I am. Just the idea of getting up and facing another…"
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Chuck Your right what I feel now is probably going to be a lot different in the near future. I'll remember to keep myself open to whatever for holidays. "
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Everyone On the way home from Easter Brunch I was thinking about the day, I realize that the holidays have no significance for me anymore. Not really saying this in a negative way, the holidays for me are about the shared experience with Diane.…"
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Chuck  Your right my friend whether we are ready or not the holidays and events come anyways. Making it through the first one will probably make the other ones easier. I can see were the apprehension of the event could make it a lot worse.…"
Tuesday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha  Thanks for the response, it is nice to now that Diane can still be a part of me. I also ignored some stuff early on but when the thing with the light was hard even for me to ignore. I did ask her for help getting through Easter maybe…"
Monday
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Pete Sorry to hear your not feeling well, hope you get well soon. Will be thinking of you"
Mar 28
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara Some of this might be a coincidence the angel would always be lite up I never notice it. I figure take comfort wherever you can find it. Comfort is in short supply when your in raw grief. "
Mar 27
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi Everyone  I don't remember if I told this before or not. A month ago or so I was having a bad day. I helped Diane with a lot of stuff because of her pain and copd issue. I was crying a lot and kept saying I just want to know your okay,…"
Mar 27
ImageHarold McKinstry commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Sara  I have said before we have a lot in common, my favorite sport is NHRA Drag Racing, I don't own a race care but watch all on TV and go to the Summit National In Norwalk Ohio I think me and Ken would have got along just fine. My day…"
Mar 27

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At 6:28pm on March 8, 2016, ImageSara Murphy said…

I agree.  I find it impossible to believe it will ever get better.   When people ask that dreaded question "how are you doing", I'll tell some of them I'm in a living hell.  I've also told Ken our roles have reversed since his passing, before I had to watch him suffer and now he has to watch me suffer.  I'm going to hold on to hope though that eventually, probably some day long in the future, I'll be able to see the light (either light will do)

At 4:44pm on March 8, 2016, ImageSara Murphy said…

Harold,  I feel as you do with the deep, never ending grief.  I'm only 2 weeks ahead of you, my husband passed on 1/13/16.  I contacted my doctor last week because I needed something to help.  Mornings for me are the worst.  I'm so full of anxiety but still have to get up to go to work.  With my husband here, I had strength to do anything.  However sick he was, I could handle it, take care of him, go to work etc.  I got my strength from him.  Without him, I panic over everything so afraid of what the future will hold that I'll have to deal with solo.  The anti-anxiety meds do help a bit.  I can be calmer and focus better at work but it doesn't stop me from crying for him every day, several times a day.  I pray we both find piece although I believe we're a long way from that right now.

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Sara

 
 
 

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