This perspective from Rahul Varma really captures what many leaders are seeing right now. We’re hearing this more and more: something is not working for the next generation. And the data now reflects it. Global mind health is declining across younger populations, particularly in high income countries. What shows up in families and leadership circles as anxiety, depression, or loss of purpose is part of a broader, measurable shift. This raises a harder question. If the environments we’ve built are contributing to this trajectory, what responsibility do we have to rethink them?
My daughter is starving to death. This used to be a very rare private confidence that an executive would share with one of our transformational coaches in their one on one sessions of our programs. Tragically, now it is a refrain spoken by several leaders in the opening circle of the programs almost every time. It has different faces of course. My son has severe depression. Our college age child has no sense of purpose or hope for the future. Our pre-teen daughter is self-harming. This drastic rise in the prevalence of teen mental health crises in these families reflects a wider trend. Since COVID we have seen a roughly 25% global surge in youth anxiety and depression with spikes in self-harm and crisis level distress that in some regions more than tripled. In the program we look beyond the leader's immediate nuclear family to their parents and grandparents. Often, their child is expressing in a poignant and urgent way a long unprocessed hurt hat lives in their ancestry and the pain of the country in which they originate. Generations of unhealed trauma finally speaking in a loud cry for help. I don't want to be simplistic of course about something so delicate, so dangerous and so deeply personal. Each case is of course unique. Each amalgam of causes and conditions in which such a crisis arises is different. Each child deserves our utmost attention, skill, tenderness, and care to help. However, I can say that these leaders often carry the extreme heartbreak of feeling that they have failed as parents. They carry in common guilt of having devoted disproportionate attention to their careers over a long period of time. Sharing this in a leadership program breaks the cycle of secret keeping, shame and isolation too many families face in grappling with these dynamics. Many also find it comforting to start to make psycho-emotional sense of the function that the illness is serving in the family system and to respond with real intention and commitment to the walk of healing that they are being called to. In our programs I often work alongside Ester Martinez PhD, an extraordinary practitioner who conducts family constellations processes with the entire group. These constellations allow us to visibly see together how transgenerational trauma gets passed down, how the symptom is always pointing to a "dis-order" in the lineage dynamics and to start to realign and redress what was missing, unacknowledged or were interrupted movements of love. It is a profound privilege for each of us to participate in and support healing at this root level and to be part of the coming Home process for a family. At the end of every program Mobius offers all alumni of our programs a free consultation with an adolescent therapist whenever needed. This crisis belongs to all of us. The next generation is our shared responsibility. Their despair is wide spread and we must all turn towards it and offer our wisdom and love to its remediation.