This is a question about sharing space and learning to compromise.

You could find a dream woman who loves all of your favorite bands, but she might also like quiet. Maybe she listens to NPR in the morning and blasts her favorite albums from 4 to 6 p.m. You’d have musical compatibility with that kind of person, but you’d still have to consider her needs as she adjusts for yours.

If you plan to spend a lot of time with another person, you’ll probably have to buy high-end headphones.

The big question, to me, is less about sharing space and more about live music. If shows are a big part of your life, you probably want someone who can join you at these events.

Is this woman open to seeing music she doesn’t know? Does she love the spirit of a live audience? Are you ready to check out her favorite bands?

The incompatibility might be there. Maybe there’s a touring act that represents both of your interests. Invite her and see how it goes.

– Meredith

Readers? I am reminded of the recent story about the woman who runs a dating app for vinyl fans. But for this letter writer: how do you share a home with people who don’t like your music, TV shows, decor, etc. Are you with someone who despises your music? How does it work?

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